Benson

Sensual, voluptuous, you intensely yearn to fulfill your heart's desires in couple life in the purest possible tradition, for your need for tenderness and sentimental security is boundless.

With you, love is not a simple item added to the list of your preoccupations - it's rather a force that possesses you entirely. When you give your heart, there's no question to take it back. The sense of stability, which is inherent to your first name, entails constancy and unshakable faithfulness on your part if your mate responds to your sensual appetite.

But you do not always know how to show your feelings. This is a pity for, behind your somewhat unrefined appearance and your over- materialistic attitudes, there exists a rather surprising romantic side to your character.

In love, you tolerate no sharing and, when your confidence is betrayed, you neither bear nor forgive the affront. Also, jealousy is an ever-present risk with you. When it's aroused, it can poison your existence, mingling its venom with that of spite which even time could not calm down.

Very much attached to the notion of family, you don't conceive of life without children. You possess a precocious sensuality and hate changing your habits. As a result, you are one of those who marry young and celebrate their golden wedding surrounded with a huge crowd of small ones. And if circumstances compel you to lead a single man's life, you feel very unfortunate.

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Relationships



I came across "He's Just Not That Into You" while making a window-shopping trip around town. Many of you have probably seen it on Oprah or heard about it.

What you hear is true: Every woman should read it. It's written by a woman and man who both work on Sex and the City. Choosing not to purchase such a random-self-relationship-help book, I cheatingly spent some time at the bookstore reading it.

Much of it is pretty hilarious. The concept of the book is clear.

The point is, if he's not calling, not asking you out, etc., then don't waste your time and energy worrying about it and making up excuses for him. Guys will go for what they want. We're way too great to be obsessing about relationships that will never happen or be successful. Let's wait for the ones who will make the effort and treat us as we should be treated. As the female co-author says on the back cover, "We're fantastic."

This kind of brings me to a conversation I had with a female friend a while ago. Being the great girl that she is, she said: "Every girl deserves to be treated like a queen." In a ball of confusion, I thought about it for a moment. It took me a while to agree and decide if that applied to me, but it is so true. I hope all girls will believe it too.

I wasn't quite sure if girls should be materialistically spoiled like queens. However, when your man treats you like a queen in terms of the way he thinks very highly of you, you can't help but start to live the way he sees you. This is the positive effect of being treated like a queen. You want to live up to that worthy image.

Now hear me out. I have been in relationships where I felt I was being a horrible boyfriend. But I've come to realize something as of late. It takes the right guy to make the right girlfriend [and vice versa]. When you truly care for someone, you would not do the things people do that ultimately end in arguments, or even worse, end relationships.

When you genuinely care for somebody, you don't hurt him, do things to manipulate feelings, make him jealous, try to acquire the upper-hand, grab the ball in your court, etc. You don't say angry words just to see how he would react. You don't test him. You don't go out to party to meet prospective guys. You don't make him jealous out of spite. You don't throw random fits just because you want more of his attention. You don't trick him into doing things for you. You don't discourage him to make up for your own shortcomings and insecurities. You don't do a lot of these things that have the slightest power to make him doubt your feelings towards him.

Unfortunately, many of us [guys and girls, mind you] have been found guilty of such actions. Most girls in relationships that I know have pulled these sort of tricks. And most of these girls have fallen out of their relationships in due time.

All these things seem ridiculous, but they’re not. Girls need the right guy to come along in order to be good girlfriends.

Don't settle for anything less, don't be anything less.

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Forever Love - 王力宏

愛你 不是因為你的美而已 我越來越愛你
每個眼神觸動我的心 因為你讓我看見
Forever 才瞭解自己 未來這些日子
要好好珍惜 愛我 有些痛苦 有些不公平
如果真的愛我 不是理所當然的決定
感到你的呼吸在我耳邊 像微風神奇
溫柔的安撫 我的不安定
所以我~要 每天研究你的笑容 Ooh 多麼自然

Forever love Forever love
我只想用我這一輩子去愛你
從今以後 你會是所有 幸福的理由

愛情是場最美最遠的旅行 沿途雨季泥濘
偶爾阻礙我們的前進 感到你的體溫在我懷裡
像陽光和煦 巧妙的融化 我的不安定 不可思議
證明我愛你的理由 Ooh 多麼自然

你感動的眼睛 我沉默的聲音 彷彿就是最好的證明
就讓我在說一次 I love you oh (直到永遠)

Forever Love Forever Love Forever Love
我只想用我這一輩子去愛你
從今以後 你會是所有 幸福的理由

Forever Love Forever Love Forever Love

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Searching My Soul Tonight

I feel so alone this evening.

Sitting here contemplating the aforementioned spiel of a love that fits and unable to entertain or seduce myself into sleep by immersing in a good book, I find myself typing away in my blog on another somber, rainy night.

Even having been graced with the company of such wonderful people (friends and family), I still feel this emptiness dwelled within. I know I'm blessed. I know I've been spoiled with experiences and material things some can only dream of. I know all of this and I'm humbly grateful, but by the same token, this void I feel just can't be explained or made sense of.

I'm teary-eyed. I'm finding little comfort in listening to the therapeutic-- Vonda Shepard, Ella Fitzgerald, Billie Holidy and Etta James. Is something terribly wrong with me or am I just emotionally jaded?

I feel like I'm the only person on God's green earth who feels this way. I feel like nobody really understands me even though they say they empathize. I know they try. I know they make the effort to listen, to help me get through my emotional dips, to get to know, engage and console me... But without fail, their efforts are resisted and the misery still resides.

Sometimes if you hold out for everything,
you walk away with nothing.

It's better to regret the things you do than the things you don't do.

Nothing can be lonelier than being with the wrong girl.

If you meet someone who has even just the slightest chance of being
The One, then she's worth every try 'cause it's not often
in life that you get to meet one of them.

All my heart, forever.

I read Emily's profile the other day. Her mention of Ally Mcbeal really struck a chord. Ally McBeal. Heh, the show for the lonely. It used to be one of my favorite television shows. It could possibly still be one of my top five favorites. That Ally McBeal sure is amazing. I can so identify with her character's trials and tribulations, stirring thoughts and strange quirks. I traversed through some of its online quotes. The ones above really hit the core. I hope you all find as much pleasure in them as I do.

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A Love That Fits

I just want a love that fits - that fits when I wear it. A love that clings to my body, consumes me and makes me hear Billie Holiday's "The Very Thought Of You" playing in my head. I want it to make me feel like an old soul, in a new happiness. I want it to dance within me until it shakes my shoes, and scurries up my body, and bursts out of my mouth with an "I love you" like a volcanic eruption. I want a love that I can wear. I want love.

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A poem for today.

Life Is A Vacation

At birth we started a long vacation
Some vacation becomes too long
Some there duration very brief
Whether long or brief we still vacate


The schedule starts at infancy
Some schedule are tight and others very loose
However we accomplish only what's destined


On this vacation we climb mountains
And make a descent of valleys
These are the contours of life
For it is filled with ups and downs


Life is a serious vacation
Where success and failures combines
Where some turns out wise
And others remain perpetually foolish
And another category remains on the fence
This the vacation of life

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Better When We're Together

It is a marvel how some people can glide into your life so suddenly, and in a flurry, your days are intertwined with their existence and you can't help but wonder, "Where did you come from?"

Years has passed since we've been together and she is nothing short of amazing. I love how we are on the same wavelength, how we can both show and teach each other such different things, how he's not afraid to take shots at me, and finishes it off with a "I'm just kidding" to reassure me she actually has a sense of humor and personality.

I love how she takes my badgering and pretends to be hurt by them, how she can't seem to get the words out when she has something of note to say, how she embraces my craziness and strange quirks, and is willing to listen to me blabber about things that don't matter.

I love how, when we're together, I find myself relishing every moment.

I love her stories and her voice, her open-mindedness and her good heart. I love how she always seems to have a science fiction novel lying around, occupying her time while she waits for class to start. I love how I can slowly open up to her, then want to open up to her more and more.

I love how as soon as she says good-bye, I immediately begin missing her.

I love her confidence and her ambition and good values, her strength combined with fragile fallibility, her wit and optimism.

But most of all, I love how she makes me feel and ignites my days full of passion and immeasurable affection.

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我是幸福的 - 梁靜茹

黃昏過後 暖暖的晚風中 在小公園裡頭 眼眶紅了
看老公公和老婆婆在散步著 把手牢牢握著
星星亮了 我覺得幸福就是這樣的

* 幾十年後 你也變老公公 我當你的拐杖 扶著你走
眼睛花了 你老花眼鏡就是我 把時間忘了 慢慢走
美麗風景 我為你轉播不讓你錯過

# 能和你牽手 我是幸福的 你就像溫柔又頑固的石頭
用心蓋了座 最美的城堡叫永久 圈住我
不管過再久也會幸福的 我們都走過了動搖的時候
愛已變成樹 就算是有風會平息的

Repeat * #

被懂我的人愛著 我是幸福的 連沉默都能是交流
你總是能給我比我想的還要多 我愛你
不做你的公主 要做你的快樂

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