THE SECOND DATE THEORY

Have you ever heard of the second date theory?
I'm not surprised if you haven't because I made it up.

However, this theory is not at all groundless as I have proven them quite successfully on numerous occasions.

The theory is actually very simple. You should always go out with a guy/girl on a second date to decide whether or not you want to see him again. There are a few exceptions of course, you should not proceed into second dates if :

1. The guy/girl makes no sign of asking or agreeing to a second date
2. The guy/girl is a total creep that you'd rather spend an entire afternoon watching mosquitos sucking blood on your legs.
Definition of a creep : a person who behaves outside the standard norms applied in our society. (Prisons and/or devil-worshipping sects not included)
3. The guy/girl is married (subjected to personal preferences - if you don't mind breaking a nice little family apart and keep the broken piece for yourself - sure,why not?)

Apart from those aforementioned conditions, always say yes to a second date.

The reason, like the theory itself, is simple. Contrary to popular belief, you do need more than one date to really understand, assess and decide if you want to see the person again. Please bear in mind that this theory should not be used as a process of finding "The One". Lord, no. This is simply to help you figuring out whether the person you go out with on a first date might be worth your time and energy for future engagements/meetings.

Also, the second date theory does not restrict you to make any kind of judgement on the second date only. Feel free to do so on the third, fourth, even on the day before your wedding day if you still have doubts by the second date.

Alright, if we're clear about that, let's continue.

If you're like me, a single individual who occasionally feels the needs to socialize with the opposite sex members, you've encountered many of these situations:

1. You went out on a first date with someone and you thought it was a total disaster.
2. You went out on a first date with someone and when somebody asked about it, you shrugged and said "I suppose it went okay..."
3. You went out on a first date with someone and you didn't even wait until you get home before you SMSed your best friend saying "He/she is Great! Cute, sexy and funny! I think I'm in love..."

Sounds familiar?

You might be thinking, "What's the big deal? If it's no.1 or 2, you simply don't have to go out with the person again. If it's no.3, continue!" When in fact, this is where we must hold ourselves from making any judgement too soon. Let me elaborate point by point...

Date Situation #1

A Total Disaster

Have you ever thought how nerve-wrecking it is to be on the first date for some people? You might be able to be non-chalant about it, or you may not have a problem meeting new people and carrying a fun and intelligent conversation with them but some people, most people I believe, think about sitting down in a restaurant with someone they just met and will instantly feel sick. They feel pressured.

What if she doesn't like me? What if he thinks my arms look fat in this top? What if she doesn't think I'm funny? What if he makes a really funny remark and I snort the orange juice out my nose? All those what-ifs! They exist because whether you admit it or not, people put very high expectations on first dates.

So instead of coming off as charming, polite and intelligent, the person sometimes ends up doing the exact opposite. You think he burps loudly because he doesn't have any manner? Think again. He might let it slip accidentally and because he was nervous, he thought burping the word "How you're doing" could save him some face and maybe, just maybe, you'd think it's funny. So give him/her a break. Go out on a second date and decide how you feel then.

Date Situation #2

Mediocre

He's cute but the date went so so. You weren't exactly swept off your feet and during conversation, you found yourself thinking about whether or not you've done your laundry that week. This is also the case of over-expectation. Just because sparks weren't flying above your head, you don't think the person's worth your time? Think about it.

Chemistry is sometimes overrated, people. You just met this person. Most people aren't usually comfortable with expressing themselves too freely on first dates, even if they think you're hot. Do you whisper sweet nothings to your date's ear during movie on a first date? Didn't think so. (If you do, who are you? Marilyn Monroe?)

If you have at least one thing in common (You both think Tiramisu is a great dessert) I'd say that's enough reason for you to agree on a second date. You'll never know how things are going to develop. You might very well find a very special person underneath that sweater vest (sorry, couldn't resist a little "Friends" joke).

Date Situation #3

I've Found The One!

Not so fast, missy. Yes, chemistry might be so thick you can cut it with a knife, but this is a first date, most people actually practice to be charming beforehand. You laughed at the same jokes? Good. You talked on a cafe until you're the only customers left there? Great.

But save your judgements for the second date before you commit the whole weekend for him/her. This tip is also handy for those of you who meet a potential boy/girlfriend but later on found out that the person is unattainable (he has a boyfriend, different religions, different ethnic background, whatever that will drive your parents insane).

You should use this theory to find out whether or not the person is worth saying goodbye to your parents' inheritance for. Ask him/her for a second date. Choose a different location, do different things, see how he dresses during the day (also great to scrutinize every unsightly scars/marks on the face), find out if the conversation does flow as well as it did on the first date.

If after the second date you still find yourselves relishing every second of it in your mind when you're in bed, then my friend, you're officially screwed.

Hehehe...

  :Posted By: Dysfunctional Sadist At ||||||||||4:34 pm||||||||||.